You know that Philip Larkin poem? You definitely do. Even if you don’t know anything about Philip Larkin you have probably heard:
This Be the Verse
They fuck you up, your mum and dad.
They may not mean to, but they do,
They fill you with the faults they had
And add some extra, just for you.But they were fucked up in their turn
By fools in old-style hats and coats,
Who half the time were soppy-stern
And half at one another’s throats.Man hands on misery to man.
It deepens like a coastal shelf.
Get out as early as you can
And don’t have any kids yourself.
Philip Larkin, ladies and gentleman! Have a great National Poetry Month! Don’t forget to tip your waiter!
No, I’m kidding. I brought up the Philip Larkin pome partly because it’s a classic and I like Philip Larkin (more pomes here), and partly because it’s a good poem for The Family Fang, a book about the ways two kids are thoroughly fucked up by their mum and dad.
Annie and Buster Fang spent their childhoods as semi-willing participants in their parents’ never-ending quest for Art. Caleb and Camille Fang, noted performance artists, would engage their children (Child A and Child B, as they called them) in their scenes of public, rehearsed chaos, the fallout of which they would furtively film and display in galleries. Now adults, Annie and Buster find themselves ill-equipped for real life and both end up, wearily, back at home, where they are — less willingly than ever before — caught up in their parents’ dramatic final piece.
A trait I inherited from Mumsy — not a fault! my parents are the actual best parents ever and did not instill me with any faults and that’s why I’m perfect, you’re welcome world! — is that I love a good hoax. I just do. I get a kick out of elaborate hoaxes, the elaborater the better (as long, of course, as they do not have any real importance in my life), and will suspend an unreasonable amount of disbelief out of a desire to believe an impressive fake thing is real. So in that sense I was an excellent audience for this book. Kevin Wilson comes up with increasingly weird and horrifying “performance art pieces” for the Fangs to enact, starting with the merely silly (a pretended jelly bean heist from a crowded mall) and escalating to the near-abusive. Nothing about Buster and Annie’s neuroses as adults seems overblown, but rather the natural results of a childhood in which the family always came second to the Art.
On the other hand, I derive from both parents a gut distaste for observing bad parenting in action. I am not quite as upsettable on this front as Mumsy, I would not say, but I could not help minding that Caleb and Camille never ever showed any genuine affection for their children. And I think — my aversion to bad parenting aside — that this would have made the book stronger. The small, brief moments of sincerity that Camille displayed (I don’t think Caleb ever did) were some of my favorite parts, and more of that would have given the book more emotional heft. It would have made the characters feel more like real people oftener. As it was, they were often just pieces on a board.
I loved, and would have read fifty more of, the chapters that narrated the specific performance art pieces done by the Family Fang over the year. They were such good chapters. The pieces were so inventively horrible — much more so, if I may say it, than the sort of Final Piece (or is it) that forms the crux of the second half of the book. I wanted the Fang’s Final Piece (or is it?) to be something worthy of the rest of their shenanigans, and it just wasn’t, in any way. It was a huge letdown. Not nearly dramatic enough. Not nearly insane enough. Not enough asunder-ripping. And since the characters tugged at my heartstrings only pretty minimally, and the Final Piece did not provide the cymbal crash I wanted, this ended up being a three-star read instead of a four-.
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You are so right about wanting to read fifty more of the hoaxes, and how the final one was a big letdown. Although I think the letdown is the point–when you continually disappoint people, they learn not to expect much, so wanting more successful hoaxes is like expecting the children not to get hardened and bitter. You can expect it, but you’ll be disappointed.
Huh. That is a good way of looking at it but I don’t quite buy it. I wanted the final hoax to be more — I don’t know. I wanted it to involve more of the foregoing things. It felt like a cheat because it was too small, and I thought Camille and Caleb would never settle for anything small. They’d always go for the big finish.
I have always loved this poem! I haven’t found too many others of his I like, but this one makes up for all the rest!
I know I’ve liked other Philip Larkin poems before but right now I can only think of the bad ones. There was one about death that was very good. Er, that won’t narrow it down for you much though.
Oh, how I love to be tricked in a book – and how I do NOT love to be tricked in actual life. Also, it is bizarre how many people think parenting is something that “just happens” when they are busy doing other stuff. Why? Why would anyone think that? ALL that aside, would I like this?
Hahahahaha, I know that you do not like to be tricked in real life, Mumsy. That is why I have never attempted an elaborate April Fool’s Day joke on you, like some members of the family.
I can’t decide if you would like it or not! You’d like all the things they come up with to do (they’re just so weird), but I know you don’t like seeing kids be hurt. There’s one scene in particular, where they go to a restaurant (er, spoilers, other comment-readers!) and the kids have no idea what’s going to happen and the parents won’t say and won’t give them any sign, and halfway through dinner the little boy is so nervous and keyed up that he throws up and they have to leave. And the parents are like “Glorious! You MADE the drama! We didn’t even have to do anything!” It’s pretty upsetting. But that’s the most upsetting thing in the book, so you can decide for yourself how you’d feel about it.
I have never read that poem, but man, how true! I remember reading a lot about this book early on, and thought it sounded fantastic. It does seem like an odd style of parenting, and I can only imagine what my takeaway would be. I am sorry to hear that the final peice was disappointing, though after your very wonderful review, I want to read this one now more than ever. And I have thought more than once that you have an amazing mom and dad.
Aw, thanks! I do have an amazing mom and dad, although compared to Camille and Caleb Fang, all the parents are amazing. :p I hope you like this if you pick it up — it’s definitely different!
My mom’s been wanting me to read this book because she really liked it, but I hate hoaxes so much in real life that I’m not sure I could get over it fictionally. Hmmm. Sadly, Mumsy, parenting *does* “just happen” if you’re busy doing other stuff — it just doesn’t turn out very well. Very like souffles, in this regard.
Indeed? You hate hoaxes? You aren’t even a teensy bit impressed by the grandeur of the lie? Mumsy and I are both very swayed by grand dramatic lies of enormous scope. We cannot resist. We just want to believe.
Wow, that poem is awesome! I have this book to read and I have read so many middling reviews on it that I am kind of hesitant to get going on it.
Right? Philip Larkin!
Aw, I hope my review hasn’t put you off. I would say, the ending is disappointing, but the book is extremely entertaining. It goes quickly so you won’t get bogged down and feel cranky with it. (At least I didn’t.)
When I saw the title, I thought this might be a vampire book. Now knowing it’s not, I want to read it. Somehow reading about how bad others are screwed up always makes me feel better. And I don’t want to delve into why I feel that way.
Thanks. On the list it goes.
Hahahaha, it is emphatically not a vampire book. And I know that you are not alone in liking to read about screwed-up people, or else the dysfunctional family memoir would not be so very very beloved.
I also assumed this was about vampires and that it would be like The Radleys, which I enjoyed very much but not enough to want to read again. This, however, sounds like a hoot, because I also enjoy a good hoax, as long as its intention is not to humiliate a specific person or distress anyone for more than a minute or two. (Fake April Fool’s Day news stories before everyone was doing them or movies that pretended to be documentaries are the kinds of things I enjoy.)
Would I like The Radleys?
Just in the interests of full disclosure, the hoaxes the Family Fang produces sometimes do have the intention of humiliating people and distressing them for longer then a minute or two. In case that makes a difference in your wanting to read it.
I love that poem (which I had never seen before!) … which makes up for the fact (maybe?) that I hated this book. The Fang parents were just awful. I was rooting for them to actually be dismembered at the rest stop. This book reinforces my support of parenting licenses.
Indeed? Well, yay! I am happy to have introduced you to it!
I too was sort of rooting for the parents to have been dismembered at the rest stop. But I knew they weren’t. I knew they were doing a trick. I just wanted the trick to involve their actual deaths, in the end.
I have had this book out from the library a couple times, but I still haven’t read it. I am curious about it, so will have to get it out again…
I have books like that, where I keep checking them out and returning them unread. It can be such a good feeling to finally get through them.
yay! Philip Larkin! So witty. I have yet to read The Family Fang. Most people I know have loved it, but I have long strongly suspected that this book is not for me. I’ve yet to read a review to change my mind, but maybe it exists.
Yeah, this isn’t a post to sway the uncertain. Except possibly the Philip-Larkin-uncertain.
That poem is freakin’ awesome! And I’m not even a big fan of poetry. Evidently, all it takes is a few swears and I’m sold.
Hahahahaha, I have to admit I do get a kick out of seeing swear words in pomes by Reputable Poets.
I think the poem sad. I do like the title. I’m glad FizzyJill found a poem to be a fan of.
I will not read this book. I think you should add souffle to your tags. I adore the word souffle. I kinda like souffles to though I’ve never attempted one. Hmmm.
The poem is sad. Philip Larkin was a sad dude. But it’s pithy!
I shall put the word “souffle” in my next set of tags. Promise. (If I remember. I am often dumb and forgetful.)
My son gave me a throw pillow with “This Be The Verse” stitched on it in needlepoint. LOL
Ahahahahaha, that is an amazing present.
Very interesting review as I’ve heard of this book around and about without having any idea of its plot. I love the idea of crazy performance pieces, very cool, but bad parenting does sort of freak me out a bit, too. It all depends, you know, on how the rest of the narrative is ticking along and how the parenting is depicted. I am still only halfway persuaded about this novel, though, so thank you, Jenny, as it is a relief some times not to have to add another book to the pile!
The parenting is depicted…very negatively. I would say if bad parenting in fiction bothers you, this is emphatically not for you. Stay miles away. Miles.
(See how I am helping you in not adding books to your pile? By being emphatic?)
It was the role reversal that got me – Annie & Buster were the parents and Camille and Caleb the children in effect. I loved the performance pieces, and couldn’t stop chuckling, although they are not all comfortable to read. I thought it was a brilliant book.
I can’t believe I haven’t heard of this poem before! The poem + the book = magic! I have a thing for dysfunctional families.